1 Corinthians 13 “Love Always”

If I speak in the tongues of mortals and of angels, but do not have love, I am a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. And if I have prophetic powers, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. If I give away all my possessions, and if I hand over my body so that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing. Love is patient; love is kind; love is not envious or boastful or arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice in wrongdoing but rejoices in the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends. But as for prophecies, they will come to an end; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will come to an end. For we know only in part, and we prophesy only in part; but when the complete comes, the partial will come to an end. When I was a child, I spoke like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child; when I became an adult, I put an end to childish ways. For now, we see in a mirror, dimly, but then we will see face to face. Now I know only in part; then I will know fully, even as I have been fully known. And now faith, hope, and love abide, these three; and the greatest of these is love. [NRSA: 1 Cor 13]

This chapter is both wonderful and intimidating. We love it and we held to its words and love.

Paul calls us to “love like we are family.” 

Families do not always agree. Families fight, divorce, hold grudges, abuse, neglect… why in the world would we want to love like a family’s love?

Too often we label our failures of trying to be a loving family as the standard. Therefore, we confuse reality with the model that is before us.

Instead of modeling family experience, we look to the fellowship God reveals for us:

Loving as Paul describes is 

1) a love based in God. What is love? Look and listen to God for God’s examples of love and loving relationship.

2) a love that can hold people in relationship even when their thoughts and behaviors are out of bounds. (I love you even though you are doing ‘wrong’ or thinking ‘wrong’.

3) a love that is not grounded in emotions but loves us in relationship to God even when you and I both have failed to love as God loves.

The Framework of God’s family: Based in Love, Loving the sinner, Love is Eternal

It’s important to clarify: I family operating on God’s love will look like the love described in this chapter. And, a Church family or koinonia fellowship, operating on God’s love, will look and sound like the relation described in chapter 13. But it is not automatically true.

We are a church denomination, that has actively talked about divorce for 22 years. We have been more focused on trying to keep the family together than learning to love the sinners despite their sins. We have aligned ourselves in the those who are correct and those who are wrong, blaming each other for the current reality. WHEN the reality is that we have accepted this lie as our truth.

The Church has always been called to be Christ’s body and not ours. It even sounds awkward to hear ourselves say: RS Church is Christ’s church, we usually say, “RS Church is ‘my’ church.” My service, my music, my class, my friends, my history, my offering, my, my my… 

Christ came to give himself for sinners. He always named the sin, and forgives the sinner, so that new life my eternally be in God.

Talking about loving people and actually loving people is the difference in saying the latest slogan or catch phrase about who we love, or who we support is not, in itself, AND loving enough to actually stay in relationship with God’s strength. This is to love as Paul describes. It is not at easy when we deal with the worst in each other.

Marriage

There is a reason that many couples include this passage in their wedding ceremony as it is the description of the type of relationship that are setting as their measure. At the foundation of a marriage it is a good base to start. When half of all marriages end in divorce we must reexamine how we love. 

Love sets boundaries for everyone in the relationship. When we are out-of-bounds, we break the relationship of love. Through GRACE God works to redevelop trust and rebuild. But our continued disobedience leads us to end relationships. Sometimes ending a relationship is the only way we can move forward.

Social Love

In society, we recognize that we might love our enemies, but their behaviors so violate trust and respect that we incarcerate them to separate them from others. This is not the model of love, but it is the accountability of not loving.

•             Just as God is revealed in creation, in the purposeful design of creation, with its order, beauty, and seasons of life, death, and renewal of life. 

•             God’s love can be seen throughout creation, in God providing for what we need not only to eat and drink, but to challenge and expand our minds, and to live together in community.

Pieces are the Whole

Wisdom, knowledge, faith, sacrifice are all parts of the relationship, but love is the reason behind them all. Prophecies, knowledge, physical nature all need to mature, but only mature in love.

Reclaiming the Heart and Hope for our Relationships

Love is..  (This activity ALWAYS requires God’s help, when we are on our own, we our out of bounds)

Love is patient; kind; not envious, boastful, arrogant, rude, not selfish, irritable, nor resentful; it rejoices in doing what is Godly, what is true. It bears, believes, hopes, and endures all things; Love never ends. 

Starting with Confession

Which of these do we struggle?

Proactive

Օ – Patient

Օ – Kind

Օ – Rejoices in Truth

Օ – Seeks what is Godly

Օ – Bears

Օ – Believes

Օ – Hopes

Օ – Endure

Reactive / opposite

Օ – Envious / Content

Օ – Boastful / Humble

Օ – Arrogant / Respects

Օ – Rude / Kind

Օ – Selfish / Selfless

Օ – Irritable / Care

Օ – Resentful / Appreciative

Which do we experience from others most?

Proactive

Օ – Patient

Օ – Kind

Օ – Rejoices in Truth

Օ – Seeks what is Godly

Օ – Bears

Օ – Believes

Օ – Hopes

Օ – Endure

Reactive / opposite

Օ – Envious / Content

Օ – Boastful / Humble

Օ – Arrogant / Respects

Օ – Rude / Kind

Օ – Selfish / Selfless

Օ – Irritable / Care

Օ – Resentful / Appreciative

What are the correlations and connections with what we struggle and the struggles of others?

Are they connections that begin in opposition? Then we know where to ask for God’s help.

And now faith, hope, and love abide, these three; and the greatest of these is love. [NRSA: 1 Cor 13]

Patient and Kind, Truth and Godliness

Bears and Believes, Hopes and Endures

Content and Humble, Respects with Care and Kindness

Selfless and Appreciative. Love is forever.

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